I finally redbox'd this movie last night. I was delightfully pleased. I didn't get offended, as I normally would, when I think a bash-the-black-man session is occurring.
I think this previous quote sums up my feelings about the movie,
DRGSUAKA said:
To me this movie was less about the men and more about women and how we deal with our own desires, insecurities, bad decisions, quest for love, flight from hurt to eventually discovering our true worth and beauty that is inside of us etc.
IMO, women of color have a lot to deal w/ when it comes to men of color and those men of non-color. Black men are not a monolithic bunch, especially today w/ the unbounded freedoms of of promoted-self, and we're not "married" to women of color anymore, as we historically were, so in that regard, we should be treated as singleton personalities. We're all not the same age, have the same background, same experiences, same goals (regarding females), same ideologies, et al. 20 years ago this very minute, I had a goal to tag every fine female I saw. Fast forward 20 yrs later, today, when I see a beautiful female, I tell them how beautiful they are (physically), not because I seek to get between their legs but moreso because I admire beautiful things and have graduated to a point of verbalizing my admiration instead of internalizing the admiration. 20 yrs ago, I wouldn've thought of purchasing a female ANY type of flower out of respect and admiration, today, @ a whims notice (a few weeks prior), I dropped a nice flower arrangement to this one anglo elder lady (60ish or so) charged w/ caring of my post offc box/mail who looked sooooooooo despondent like she'd been mentally beaten through life, and I can tell she's a hard-working lady. Amidst her tears, I told her I did it because it was my small way of saying "thanks" for looking out for my best interests and caring. (my chex/business stuff goes there and I've yet to have anything disappear lol)