A blessing for single American men


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The BIGGEST flaw we black men have ever had is choosing the wrooooooooooooooong female for our yoke (wife). :read:

Same animal. Same direction. Same objective. Same desire. Same goal. Same speed. Eating the same food(s). Drinking from the same water source(s). Serving the same "master." :read: :read: :read:
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Relationships are ONLY a negative issue and not a positive sustainable essential when there are toooooooooooooooo numerous differences and certainly when you're "yoking" w/ the wrong type of animal. :read:

Deutoeronomy 22:10... and it reads :) ... ""You must not plow with an ox and a donkey harnessed together."
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We encounter enough "asses" throughout or normal days. Why would one want to return home to one? :read: Get on P88's level. :D
 
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Panther88 said:
The BIGGEST flaw we black men have ever had is choosing the wrooooooooooooooong female for our yoke (wife). :read:

Same animal. Same direction. Same objective. Same desire. Same goal. Same speed. Eating the same food(s). Drinking from the same water source(s). Serving the same "master." :read: :read: :read:
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Relationships are ONLY a negative issue and not a positive sustainable essential when there are toooooooooooooooo numerous differences and certainly when you're "yoking" w/ the wrong type of animal. :read:



We encounter enough "asses" throughout or normal days. Why would one want to return home to one? :read: Get on P88's level. :D
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:lol:

You kill me with those pictures, but you're 100% right.
 

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PVSAX99 said:
I think this thread wouldn't have gone this route if those beautiful latin women were beautiful black women. This wasn't supposed to turn into a AA men vs AA women topic at all! But oh well. Thank the lawd for pg 1...:lol:
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ok, well what about this...

<iframe width="425" height="349" src="http://www.youtube.com/embed/OM3AQYVI1w0" frameborder="0" allowfullscreen></iframe>
 
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luvdaboom said:
the same could be said for dudes who chase the kim kardashian's and superheads of the world.
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I can get jiggy with that.

One difference though is that I don't see those brothers later on in life complaining about how they can't find a suitable mate. I know so many chicks who were chasing dope boys in college and now I see them on facebook putting up statuses complaining about not being able to find a dude with a good head on his shoulder.
 
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SUJagFan said:
:lol:

You kill me with those pictures, but you're 100% right.
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lol Bruh, I told this chic last night her yoke is quite different and she should put a female cow in it to walk w/ her. Next thing I know, she commenced to cussing me out. :emlaugh: Hell, I was being forthright and honest w/ her.
 
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ROYAL BLUE said:
ok, well what about this...

<iframe width="425" height="349" src="http://www.youtube.com/embed/OM3AQYVI1w0" frameborder="0" allowfullscreen></iframe>
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Blessings come in all colors. Didn't too much care for the topic of that clip. But I was liking what I saw.
 
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Panther88 said:
lol Bruh, I told this chic last night her yoke is quite different and she should put a female cow in it to walk w/ her. Next thing I know, she commenced to cussing me out. :emlaugh: Hell, I was being forthright and honest w/ her.
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WTF...:lol:
 
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ROYAL BLUE said:
Yes, I suppose that it's offensive, but if I could use my experience as an example to my fellow single brethren so they won't be totally ignorant to "ALL" of the options in the world, then I can live with that...again this thread is not about me. This thread is designed to enlighten my brethren about "other" possibilities to finding, beauty, love, peace and happiness in a woman.
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As long you helping the bruhs...forget the wife's feelings. Exhibit #2 of what I said earlier--its all about what the man wants/needs/etc. Damn what the woman wants.

Is that biblical? REAL life seems to be different from "wished for" life. But remember, that can be changed. Any lawyer in town will tell you that. :tup:
 
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jsupop33 said:
I can get jiggy with that.

One difference though is that I don't see those brothers later on in life complaining about how they can't find a suitable mate. I know so many chicks who were chasing dope boys in college and now I see them on facebook putting up statuses complaining about not being able to find a dude with a good head on his shoulder.
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You must have quit reading TSPN cause they are one here every day INCLUDING this thread whining about the lack of suitable mates. Come on Pop.
 
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Panther88 said:
lol Bruh, I told this chic last night her yoke is quite different and she should put a female cow in it to walk w/ her. Next thing I know, she commenced to cussing me out. :emlaugh: Hell, I was being forthright and honest w/ her.
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Were y'all both in the bathroom taking a piss in the urinals when you told her this? That ERA mentality is a muther.
 
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PVSAX99 said:
I think this thread wouldn't have gone this route if those beautiful latin women were beautiful black women. This wasn't supposed to turn into a AA men vs AA women topic at all! But oh well. Thank the lawd for pg 1...:lol:

Yes, some opinions of black women are damaging to their image. But, almost any black guy you find would LOVE for the negative stereotype of black women to be absolved (if I can say that). I'm sure women would love the same thing about us men. But the bottom line is that those negative stereotypes aren't going anywhere if we (even a few of us) continue to live up to them.

I think a lot (not all) of black women are argumentative, belligerent, over-demanding, uncompromising, and downright mean to black men, and at the same time don't expect too much good to come from us. I wouldn't say it if I didn't see it over and over and over again. It is always a breath of fresh air to see some women who go against this grain of negativity, and I appreciate black women like that. I know they are out there...but it seems like they are few and far in between.
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Sad thing is, most of those "latin" women are descended from the same slave ships as us.
 
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chocalate_topaz said:
As long you helping the bruhs...forget the wife's feelings. Exhibit #2 of what I said earlier--its all about what the man wants/needs/etc. Damn what the woman wants.

Is that biblical? REAL life seems to be different from "wished for" life. But remember, that can be changed. Any lawyer in town will tell you that. :tup:
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:lol:
 
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PVSAX99 said:
I think a lot (not all) of black women are argumentative, belligerent, over-demanding, uncompromising, and downright mean to black men, and at the same time don't expect too much good to come from us.
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I guess not when a lot live a life of crime with drugs (hmmm, what's the stats of black men in jails/prisons or dead?), make tons of babies by different women, don't wanna work and rather play Xbox all day, got their priorities screwed up when they rather put money into a vehicle rather than a home. And let's not forget the MASSIVE number of black men who are gay and on the down low. Shoooooot, ya'll talking women who got too much testosterone, but what about all those brothas who want to be women. They've got the heels and matching Gucci purses to match! And for metrosexual dudes, they've got their own scarves and "man bags." Oh but let me add like you: "A lot but not all" black men are like this! :tup: Yeah, the pool of GREAT black men is plentiful! :jump: :lol:
 
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JAG89 said:
Were y'all both in the bathroom taking a piss in the urinals when you told her this? That ERA mentality is a muther.
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Ooooooooooooooooooooooh shat!!!! :emlaugh: I gotta' use this one in the near future. I can SMELL it just right around the corner. :D :swink: lol

Damned shame women learned to piss standing straight up instead of squating. :smh:
 
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If you all are expecting to have a convo with sisters on this issue, you are so off the mark. Many already feel we have too many options when it comes to them. Then you add American white women and now ya'll want to throw in imports? Get ready to tussle.

What many dont understand is that while a single mother does better raising a functioning Black female than a Black male, something is still missing. I know many sisters with great careers and educations who have brothers who are never employed and in and out of jail. On the surface, the female looks like she is a good mate, but she is plagued by the same issues from childhood her brother is. They just manifest themselves in a different manner. While the girl saw her mother struggle as a women to hold things together, that taught her how to work hard, but that didnt teach her how to love her man or be a helpmeet. Many of these women have a hole in their soul that nothing you do as their mate can fix. When they sit back and wonder how can any man love me if my father never loved me, nothing you do as her man will fix that. That has to come from mending relations with her father or healing from Christ. Just like women say they learn about how we will treat them based on how we treat our mother, a woman's relationship with her father will teach you a lot about her capacity to love you.
 
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FAMU CLIFF said:
If you all are expecting to have a convo with sisters on this issue, you are so off the mark. Many already feel we have too many options when it comes to them. Then you add American white women and now ya'll want to throw in imports? Get ready to tussle.

What many dont understand is that while a single mother does better raising a functioning Black female than a Black male, something is still missing. I know many sisters with great careers and educations who have brothers who are never employed and in and out of jail. On the surface, the female looks like she is a good mate, but she is plagued by the same issues from childhood her brother is. They just manifest themselves in a different manner. While the girl saw her mother struggle as a women to hold things together, that taught her how to work hard, but that didnt teach her how to love her man or be a helpmeet. Many of these women have a hole in their soul that nothing you do as their mate can fix. When they sit back and wonder how can any man love me if my father never loved me, nothing you do as her man will fix that. That has to come from mending relations with her father or healing from Christ. Just like women say they learn about how we will treat them based on how we treat our mother, a woman's relationship with her father will teach you a lot about her capacity to love you.
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I partly agree with you. There are some deeper issues that I tried to get to earlier, but nobody wanted to to see it. People only wanted to look at the surface. Nobody wants to get to the root of the problem.

Some healing DOES NEED to take place. But we'll NEVER get there, if people don't take honest looks at themselves (both men and women), own up to what's wrong and be willing to make things better. And for that to happen, communication is going to have to happen.
 
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CriTAUcal said:
I guess not when a lot live a life of crime with drugs (hmmm, what's the stats of black men in jails/prisons or dead?), make tons of babies by different women, don't wanna work and rather play Xbox all day, got their priorities screwed up when they rather put money into a vehicle rather than a home. And let's not forget the MASSIVE number of black men who are gay and on the down low. Shoooooot, ya'll talking women who got too much testosterone, but what about all those brothas who want to be women. They've got the heels and matching Gucci purses to match! And for metrosexual dudes, they've got their own scarves and "man bags." Oh but let me add like you: "A lot but not all" black men are like this! :tup: Yeah, the pool of GREAT black men is plentiful! :jump: :lol:
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You might as well throw in other things that add to your selection process like skin shade preference, dik size, and whatever flavor of the day Essence has thrust upon you to read and adhere to as well. Complaining about the selection don't make it get better, especially since those categories you mentioned weren't even up for selection. But when you have a "sliding scale" on both sides for selection, you will probably never be happy. But you do have some options; select someone of a different race, switch teams, buy some battery operated devices, or quit complaining.

I for one have no problem with AA women, love em to death....I'm just surprised how this thread took a turn down a road it always seems to take in this forum in men v.s. women threads. If you don't know where you are going, I guess any road will take you there. Typical tspn drive by peanut gallery mentality on both sides.
 
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FAMU CLIFF said:
a woman's relationship with her father will teach you a lot about her capacity to love you.
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I find a lot of truth in this statement. I should've known I was in trouble when my ex- said she couldn't stand her daddy and didn't want him touching her when she walked down the aisle. :smh: Also, to make it worse lol, her father TOLD me w/ his OWN MOUTH that although she was his daughter and he loved her more than anything in the world, he wouldn't recommend I marry her because she was too much like her mother, a hell-raiser. :confused: Shiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiidddddd.... all I saw was trophy wife and I was mentally and physically built to deal w/ whatever. How wrong I was. :smh: But, we've soon learned from it and have moved on w/ eyes wide open and not eyes wide shut. :read:
 
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CriTAUcal said:
Then that's sad. 'Cause I can acknowledge that some black women (I refuse to say all, because there are some black women who know HOW to take care of their men) can be hard to deal with, have attitudes, too headstrong and controlling. There's some work that needs to be on our part to soften some.

But I'm really interested in knowing what the brothas think their issues are that makes it hard for us live in harmony.

Or are they totally blameless?
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I'll give you one. Communication. I wasn't the greatest at it and it cost me my first relationship. I've grown and I'm trying to do better this time.

Y'all like to talk EVERYTHING out, seemingly. Even the smallest details. As a majority, we (AA men) do not. I think that is a trait we can improve on, but I do believe y'all have to meet us halfway.
 
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SU Jag 79 said:
I'll give you one. Communication. I wasn't the greatest at it and it cost me my first relationship. I've grown and I'm trying to do better this time.

Y'all like to talk EVERYTHING out, seemingly. Even the smallest details. As a majority, we (AA men) do not. I think that is a trait we can improve on, but I do believe y'all have to meet us halfway.
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Thank you! :)

That would be nice and ideal.
 
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Can we now get more info on this D.R.? Sisters are cool to date and kick it with, but marriage/family material is too hard to come by.
 
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jsupop33 said:
Black women who spent their younger years chasing the "bad boys" have no right to complain about the lack of suitable black males when they get older. They contributed to the problem. If black women went after the Eric Holder's of the world instead of the Lil Wayne's of the world. You would see different behavior amongst males.
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PREACH .... The "good" dudes, like myself (shameless plug) felt like we weren't sh-t in HS because the cute girl, black or white, would look right past us for the entertainer, the jokester, the jock, the whatever. Yeah, part of that is our fault too. But you can't tell me that hasn't influenced SOME AA men to change themselves into what they saw getting the girl then. Then when that guy, who was a good guy but changed to seek acceptance, gets older and falls into a new type of women, if he can't make the change back, then he is a hoodrat, and worth nothing.

It takes a strong willed person to stay who you are, even if that means you don't get the girl. Eventually, some female is going to see you .... you can't control what race or ethnicity she is though.

And of course, this is the same for that cute, smart girl who just didn't have the curves at the time too.
 
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Panther88 said:
The BIGGEST flaw we black men have ever had is choosing the wrooooooooooooooong female for our yoke (wife). :read:

Same animal. Same direction. Same objective. Same desire. Same goal. Same speed. Eating the same food(s). Drinking from the same water source(s). Serving the same "master." :read: :read: :read:
<img src="http://closerdaybyday.info/wp-content/uploads/2010/07/oxenyokeup-908x645.jpg">

Relationships are ONLY a negative issue and not a positive sustainable essential when there are toooooooooooooooo numerous differences and certainly when you're "yoking" w/ the wrong type of animal. :read:



We encounter enough "asses" throughout or normal days. Why would one want to return home to one? :read: Get on P88's level. :D
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Dayum you Panth! You making too much sense now.
 
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