Can married men be friends with single ladies?


LoyalTigress

LoyalTigress

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What is yall take on this? I know some women that have some insecurities and don't want their hubbies to be friends with single women.
 
LoyalTigress said:
What is yall take on this? I know some women that have some insecurities and don't want their hubbies to be friends with single women.
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Uhh.... :scared: Lemme see.....It all depends on the agreement that you and your significant other had before the relationship but also how close the two are as friends! :nod: I'm not married yet, but I plan on "doin the do" very soon!

I know I have some "close friends" that are girls but they were before my girl and I got together! They're childhood friends and I've never crossed the line with them so my girl doesn't care! Partly because I've never given her a reason to!

However, on the other hand, girls that I've met after we've established our relationship have got the short end of the stick! :look: :lol: My girl don't play that mess! :emlaugh:

If a married man wants to be friends with a single lady, than he has got to understand the implications that it will involve...and more than likely, that means a mouth full of obscenities from his wife especially if the girl looks damn good! :lol: :lol:
 



Yes! When people are not into playing games, then yes they can be friends. I have two very good friends that are single women. One I've known for about 18 years. Long before I was married. The other one for almost 10 years. We met just after I got married. It has not been a problem.
 
LoyalTigress said:
What is yall take on this? I know some women that have some insecurities and don't want their hubbies to be friends with single women.
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Hell, can a brother in a relationship have female friends?
 
UUHHHRRRAA...........:lecture: I feel as a married man it is okay to have single female friends as long as the man is ugly and broke !!! That way his wife will be not so uncomfortable with her good looking husband beign friends with a single woman.
 
I have been friends with a guy for about 10 years and he recently got married last year. The wife has some insecurity issues obviously and doesn't want him to be friends with ANY single females.

Guess that's when the lil word called trust is put to the test and brought into the equation.

On a different note...I've recently met some married men but they came off as being friends in the beginning but it seems as though their hidden agenda of wanting more than friendship is being revealed.
 
Well she needs to think about the situation... you've known him for 10 years... if he wanted you he would have been with you instead of her.
 
We are talking about women here. I had once a friend who was i was friends with for a long time and she was more like an unrelated sister to me but my wife understand that at first but then she started listening to her friends and she got very insecure about the situation as time went on.

I think it depends on the people involved. I really would have no problem cause you cannot be withthat person 24/7 and that spouse has to be accountable for themselves. People will do what they want to do anyway. You just have to trust that husband or wife that they are only friends with these single folks.
 
Yes...I have about 3 or 4 male friends that I knew before they were married and we're still cool. We don't go out together or anything though.
 
I just wanna love you,
and let you know you're the only
one ever for me. I'll do it so hard,
that another woman, friend or not. would
feel silly being around me.
 



LoyalTigress said:
What is yall take on this? I know some women that have some insecurities and don't want their hubbies to be friends with single women.
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A lot of us have friends of the opposite sex that we knew well before we met whoever we are with. Therefore, that shouldn't be a problem as long as everything is on the up-and-up. Basically, old friends should not be an issue because everyone tends to know the deal. However, there may be drama in the midst if a married person is out making new single "friends" of the opposite sex. You will always meet interesting people regardless of your stage in life, but sometimes you have to be wise enough to know what is or could potentially be bad business. In the long run, there is really not much to gain by making new female "friends" while you have a spouse unless you are actually planning on stepping out.
 
BILBREW said:
A lot of us have friends of the opposite sex that we knew well before we met whoever we are with. Therefore, that shouldn't be a problem as long as everything is on the up-and-up. Basically, old friends should not be an issue because everyone tends to know the deal. However, there may be drama in the midst if a married person is out making new single "friends" of the opposite sex. You will always meet interesting people regardless of your stage in life, but sometimes you have to be wise enough to know what is or could potentially be bad business. In the long run, there is really not much to gain by making new female "friends" while you have a spouse unless you are actually planning on stepping out.
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I agree. As a married man, I try to keep the female friends to a minimum.
 
BILBREW said:
A lot of us have friends of the opposite sex that we knew well before we met whoever we are with. Therefore, that shouldn't be a problem as long as everything is on the up-and-up. Basically, old friends should not be an issue because everyone tends to know the deal. However, there may be drama in the midst if a married person is out making new single "friends" of the opposite sex. You will always meet interesting people regardless of your stage in life, but sometimes you have to be wise enough to know what is or could potentially be bad business. In the long run, there is really not much to gain by making new female "friends" while you have a spouse unless you are actually planning on stepping out.
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Bilbrew, I agree with you about having friends that you knew before being married. Even though I have friends that I knew way before I met my wife, I try to limit the contact I have with them. I don't want to cause any tension between them and my wife. My wife knows the friends that I had before we were married. Out of respect for her, I don't call them as much as I used to. I may send them an email every once in a while but that's about it.
 
buckwheat1911 said:
Bilbrew, I agree with you about having friends that you knew before being married. Even though I have friends that I knew way before I met my wife, I try to limit the contact I have with them. I don't want to cause any tension between them and my wife. My wife knows the friends that I had before we were married. Out of respect for her, I don't call them as much as I used to. I may send them an email every once in a while but that's about it.
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Out of respect for your wife...:tup:
 
buckwheat1911 said:
Bilbrew, I agree with you about having friends that you knew before being married. Even though I have friends that I knew way before I met my wife, I try to limit the contact I have with them. I don't want to cause any tension between them and my wife. My wife knows the friends that I had before we were married. Out of respect for her, I don't call them as much as I used to. I may send them an email every once in a while but that's about it.
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Took the words right out of my mouth. I also think that the friend should respect your marriage or relationship also to not want to call all the time when you are with your wifey or gf
 
buckwheat1911 said:
Even though I have friends that I knew way before I met my wife, I try to limit the contact I have with them. I don't want to cause any tension between them and my wife. My wife knows the friends that I had before we were married. Out of respect for her, I don't call them as much as I used to. I may send them an email every once in a while but that's about it.
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Well said (especially the part in red!) :tup:
 
very good post, buckwheat...and that's how it should be. Once you're married, you can NOT do things the same way you did them, when you were single. Of course men and women can be friends, but if one of them is married, then there is a certain amount of restaint and respect that is expected.

You shouldn't allow someone to bring drama in your home/marriage...so handle your friends accordingly. Your friend should never come before your spouse. It's called common sense...use it!
 
That's a good question.

It depends on the people involved.

If I was married and felt that my husband's "friend" was a little too friendly then then I'd say something. But, if this is someone who has been there for years and neither of them has ever given me a reason to question the relationship, then I don't see the problem.
 
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