An Open Letter To The Black Women Who We Failed

[chocalate_topaz]

When I was talking about the "effemination" of the Black man, I was referring to the agenda/ narrative that is being pushed by these media outlets. I wasn't directing that at BW on a personal level. That's what makes these little write-ups dangerous. The consumer, oftentimes BW, are just used as pawns that buy into that narrative. I have much respect for black women who've been left to raise Black boys on their own for whatever circumstances that may have lead to that.

In raising them softly, however, Black women may have played a role in why some of these guys are sorry, lazy, entitled and sitting on their momma's couch at 25 playing X-Box and watching "First Take" when he should be in school or working. Again.....I realize that momma did the best that she could in a situation she may not have necessarily asked for. But by and large, this weak azz dude is gonna get chosen by one (or five) future baby mommas, and the cycle continues. And you can't defend raising a young boy gently on one hand, and then condemn other Black men who grew up in the same situations on the other hand.

I guess for me, I'm not defending as much as explaining. I hate kids having single parent households.It's not fair to them, in most cases. I'd also like to see more men stepping up and saying, "Give me my kid(s) to raise." HOW can we black women get around hormonally impressing our black sons??

 

[LS Syndicate]

I guess for me, I'm not defending as much as explaining. I hate kids having single parent households.It's not fair to them, in most cases. I'd also like to see more men stepping up and saying, "Give me my kid(s) to raise." HOW can we black women get around hormonally impressing our black sons??

I don't think it's possible, but I can admit that I am cynical.

And there are some brothas that need to do better, but again that can be said about white dudes, too. Americans just don't value family structure like most cultures. And when you add systemic oppression in the education system and justice system and the disparities in income and wealth, things go from bad to worse. So the last thing we need is another Sambo with a blog telling BW that all BM are "failures". And these are men with "the same hue as you". Run their backgrounds when you see their articles. Most of the time these writers are a.) single b.) gay c.) using the platform of a parent company that is not Black owned or d.) all of the above.

 

[Tpop33]

I guess for me, I'm not defending as much as explaining. I hate kids having single parent households.It's not fair to them, in most cases. I'd also like to see more men stepping up and saying, "Give me my kid(s) to raise." HOW can we black women get around hormonally impressing our black sons??

The system is against Black men (at least in Alabama) when it comes to asking for custody of our kids, whether custodial or true joint. I only know of white men who get this. Also of the situations I know of, the white women didn't fight the men on the custody issue.