I'm all for marriage....
Look at it this way,
Why would you marry somebody? Look at those fools on the talk shows and you can easily figure out that they were all married for the wrong reasons. I believe that it is all about perception.
I know guys who got married cuz they thought they were guaranteed some puddin' three times a week. Gee, weren't they surprised after month number 1.
I also know some ladies who thought that they could "mold dey man to what they wanted".... This same sister proposed to her man, bought the dayum rings, paid for the wedding, paid for the apartment AND the down payment on the new car. Marriage lasted all of 5 months. Homey cheated on his wedding nite. What about "he ain't right" didn't she understand?
All about perception. What is love? What is stupidity?
Stupidity. Marrying anybody who you know ain't right.
For instance, real things that make you go HMMMMMM while dating:
1) If he/she wasn't the cleanest person before you met, it ain't gonna automatically happen the day after the wedding, if ever.
2) If he/she didn't work when you met and wasn't looking for a job,...?
3) If he/she always has money, but couldn't tell you about their job (and ain't nobody in their family with loot)...?
4) If he/she would disappear on your arse for a week and you had no idea of where their arse was...?
5) If every time you ask he/she something, the reply was "Do I look like a dayum encyclopedia?"
6) If you wake up in the morning and all of the money and or credit cards in your purse/wallet was gone....
7) If she's pregnant and you ain't even sure you're the Daddy....
8) If he has three or more kids and they all have different Mammas....
9) If he/she has a nervous twitch and utters some profound isht like "Dey iz comin' fo our arse! Dey iz comin' Ah say!"
10) My personal favorite: If he/she kicks yo arse because they pissed off bout sumthin'....
All about perception.... Trying to emulate others. If you don't know good couples, how can you relate? Then again, good is relative....