Originally posted by blaquebuterfly
You are right JSUII about respecting each other. But ultimately, you can?t ever do that until you respect YOURSELF. Like ol? girl in Makaho?s story? no respect for self. She was totally insecure and extremely hateful. Dude? I am glad you rid yourself of that drama. (whipping the sweat off my brow?).
Ultimately if you don't love yourself, how can you love another.
If you don't respect yourself, how can you respect another.
Again to answer BISON-2K1'S initial question about finding out if your husband or wife was cheating is two fold:
For a
Woman it is considerably easier to forgive, because it's in their nature.....women are more apt to forgive their men for infidelity because they know the nature of quote, "some other women out there"...I have found that more women approach ME when I am in a serious relationship than when I am solo....I guess forbidden fruit seems more appealing. Another example, me and my married brother go out and when women step to him that know he is married...(we damn near look like twins)...my brother tells these women..."HEY my brother is single and available"..some of them are like "Uhh, something must be wrong with him cuz he has never been married and has no kids !!!"...And Im like, Uhh, they have these things called birth control pills and condoms and not getting married to someone you dont want to spend the rest of your life with.
But, I have heard a lot of women say they prefer married men so, they are gonna be on your "man" like a Hobo on a Ham Sandwich! So a woman's fight is much harder.
For a
Man is is considerably harder to forgive, because of the all encompassing MALE EGO. No man ever wants to think his "Stuff" aint the best in the world and his woman could not possibly pass up his ISHT for another man's ISHT. My good friend is going through a dilema like this....he has messed around on his wife (neva been caught though) and found out his wife stepped out....he's like MAN !!! WHAT SHOULD I DO?? Im like bruh you gonna have to do one of two thangs....You gonna have to let her go...or you gonna have to COMPLETELY forgive her for what she has done. Aint no, forgiving her for "now" and strapping a tracking bracelet on her and telling her she can't ever go out the house again. He was a bit dumbfounded, but then I reminded him that women forgive men for the same type of ISHT everyday.
Just my 2 cents....and by the way, Im not married, never been married..been engaged, and found out she was'nt the right one for me. I guess Im still holding out for Tyra Banks. lol