If your spouse was unemployed for 6 months, would you give him the boot?


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Panthro said:
What's life... w/out struggle? What's wisdom.... w/out experience? What's knowledge.... w/out having an environment to apply it?

What's a dick..... w/out a pussy to put it in? :swink:

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Just wanted to see how everyone may have changed over the last 5 yrs. My views remain the same. Although I made those original ones while married. :retard:
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I hear ya...my views haven't changed either. If you trifling, you can't be w/me...sorry.
 
Funny, I was thinking about this just last night. I would stay with my husband. It would be hard but he isn't going to get off scott-free. He needs to pick up the slack in the household. If he couldn't contribute financially, then he needs to find other ways to contribute. It's for better or for worse.
 



GSU Spirit said:
To make a long story short, my friend's husband hasn't worked since December. He had a management job and refuses to take anything less. Basically, he's at home everyday, he doesn't do any housework or yard work unless she b....es about it. He has even cashed in some of there retirement money, which they will be penalized for.

She's really stressed out because she paying the mortgage, two car notes and numerous other bills. Actually, I don't know if I could have put up with him this long.
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Re: If your spouse was unemployed for 6 months, would you give him the boot? I did. Divorced him. Real quick.
 
jag4life said:
Was that the main reason you divorced him?
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If anyone wants the long story, lemme know.

Bottom line, he had been in management, they dissolved his division, before we married. He subsequently got another job, and quit once we got married. Fine. I struggled with three jobs, holding down the fort while he lamped-I thought he may have been depressed, but at the end of five months-hell, I am not only depressed, I'm tired. And he still trying to have sex.

Get a job at McDonald's is what I said. Collect cans. Mow lawns. Whatever the ****. If I can hold down three jobs, you can at least get one.
 
Jacy said:
If anyone wants the long story, lemme know.

Bottom line, he had been in management, they dissolved his division, before we married. He subsequently got another job, and quit once we got married. Fine. I struggled with three jobs, holding down the fort while he lamped-I thought he may have been depressed, but at the end of five months-hell, I am not only depressed, I'm tired. And he still trying to have sex.

Get a job at McDonald's is what I said. Collect cans. Mow lawns. Whatever the ****. If I can hold down three jobs, you can at least get one.
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Have you ever thought of re-locating to Atlanta? You know Chicago is a long ways for me to commute.
 
Jacy said:
If anyone wants the long story, lemme know.

Bottom line, he had been in management, they dissolved his division, before we married. He subsequently got another job, and quit once we got married. Fine. I struggled with three jobs, holding down the fort while he lamped-I thought he may have been depressed, but at the end of five months-hell, I am not only depressed, I'm tired. And he still trying to have sex.

Get a job at McDonald's is what I said. Collect cans. Mow lawns. Whatever the ****. If I can hold down three jobs, you can at least get one.
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:tup: Good for you missy. :tup: Do something... anything legal and w/in reason that brings some $$$$ into the household. I agree. :tup:
 
Well, speaking as a person who had a husband that worked 2 months out of the last year we were together, I'm not having it. IF we agree that only one of us should work and IF we agree that he is the stay at home party...fine. But otherwise, I'm irritated that the house isn't straight, the yard cut and dinner isn't ready when I hit the door. Yes, I was paying for everything, even the yard boy to cut the grass because it was always something with this piece of equip or that one. I'll work with you if you work with me, but I'm not going to be the doormat in the name of love. Pink Panther and Energizer AA work pretty good...
 
So it was moreso the principle of it? He could have least put forth an effort? Because McDonald's and cutting grass ain't near what unemployment pays.
 
Panthro said:
:tup: Good for you missy. :tup: Do something... anything legal and w/in reason that brings some $$$$ into the household. I agree. :tup:
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This was many years ago BTW, and although we all want to continue with the same type of lifestyle we had, a job loss shows where sacrifices need to be made, and shows also where your spouse can be more considerate. He didn't cook for me, he didn't help around the house. I didn't come home to a warm bath, in fact he would not even take my son back and forth school.

Most men can never understand that a woman's love can only stretch so far. I can't love you into a job, I can't love you into motivating yourself for us, and I can't save a marriage in which both parties are not agreeing that we both have to work to maintain it.

I didn't know all that then, but I stand by it now.
 
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Ntelekt said:
Okay ladies, what if it was the WOMAN who was unemployed for 6 months....would you all react to HER in the same fashion???


Please enlighten....:)
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I have lived this scenario right here, buddy. My wife quit her job to take another job. The morning she was to fly out to go to orientation, Katrina hits. Wipes out the Gulf Coast. Well, the new job then tells her that her client base was gonna be the Gulf Coast, and since it's no longer inhabitable, she ain't got no job. She just went back to work in September of this year.

I held on, but I was one mad azz husband. Talk about resentment and evil thoughts. She was doing other "no money making" things to help others. Helped a whole lotta people. My house saw none of it. I don't know how we survived.
 



jag4life said:
So it was moreso the principle of it? He could have least put forth an effort? Because McDonald's and cutting grass ain't near what unemployment pays.
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I'm being facetious when I said get a job at McDonald's, because he wasn't trying to work.

He was trying to lamp. And that would have been cool, except it was a damn struggle going on at the time. I ain't saying I have never been laid off from a job and chilled on unemployment for a minute. But I was not newly married, in a newly acquired house, with newly acquired bills. Him quitting his job came at the worst time. And he wasn't pressed to get anything else.
 
Jacy said:
I'm being facetious when I said get a job at McDonald's, because he wasn't trying to work.

He was trying to lamp. And that would have been cool, except it was a damn struggle going on at the time. I ain't saying I have never been laid off from a job and chilled on unemployment for a minute. But I was not newly married, in a newly acquired house, with newly acquired bills. Him quitting his job came at the worst time. And he wasn't pressed to get anything else.
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Oh damn... I missed that part earlier. This is totally different and he was wrong from DAY 1. You don't QUIT a job when you have these types of responsibilities and no other prospects.
 
I guess to each his/her own.

My x-wife left work for 4 straight years (took a leave of absence voluntarily). My household never missed a beat. We didn't live the lifestyle that required 2 salaries. We always lived off of mine <b>solely and exclusively</b>. :) Just so happened that I started a business or two during that timeframe that became somewhat profitable so we (actually I lol) acquired more when she was away from work rather than when she returned (mainly due to her spending habits after she returned :retard: but that's another story).

I understood that she would probably grow tired of being home all day w/ nothing to do outside of housework and caring for the young one. So, I really didn't mind giving her a break and working around the house too (cooking, going out to eat for dinner frequently, cleaning, et al)! I still took care of the yard, her vehicles, gave her $$$ to spend freely on whatever her heart desired, paid all bills about the crib, etc. That is... a <b>man's</b> job if you define it as such and that was the definition that I grew up with. :)
 
Honestly I would not leave because my spouse was unemployed. Now if my wife was unemployed and still living high on the hog like she still was bringing home a check ( and WE couldn't afford it), we would have to talk. I feel two is better than one if you are on the same team.
 
I had the option of staying home, because my husband has never been too crazy about other people watching our son.
BUT, I couldn't stay at home! I like being able work and contribute to my household (with money).

I still plan to work after I have my second baby--- in the near future.
 
I love to work so it would be no problem as long as she tries to find another job. I don't mind helping, but I refuse to carry any one.
 
Nope...my husband was unemployed for six months and I had no problem with it. It was due to circumstances beyond his control when a plant shut down.

BUT, that's what happens when you invest wisely........you never miss it..;)
 
jag4life said:
Ask her if her vows mentioned something about "for better or worse". If so, this is the "worse" part.
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How long does "worse" last?

One of my old co-worker's sister who also works for my company but in CA has a "husband" who QUIT, not lost, QUIT his job 4 years ago. He was a pharmaceutical representative in CA. He said he was tired of working and wanted to take off 6 months. While off he was supposed to get into real estate. He did in an east coast state only to go sell his EX-wife's house while he stayed with the EX-wife for a few weeks. Co-worker's sister is still married to him and it has been four years. He does get a little check from the National Guard. He says he is the husband and HE controls the money. He stays at home on the computer all day. He tells her when to go to church, when to spend the money SHE makes.

OH, she has two step-children which are his and live with them. She has two children from her ex-husband. The current, non-working husband said she can't buy for her two kids unless she buys for his...whilst he AINT working. The current, non-working husband said that her EX-husband can not send anything to his own kids unless she and current, non-working husband can buy the same thing for his two children also.


To top it off, he drives the newest vehicle while sitting at home with two junk vehicles in the yard and she has to drive another vehicle which is on its last legs. She has at least a 50 minute drive to her job.

Yeaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaah Lawd!

Everybody has their own limit....so I guess it must be alright with her that he has not worked in 4 years and she is struggling to make ends meet when they have to do things like repair the roof or get termite treament on the house, etc. She told him that he needs a job and this has gone on too long. He aint even trying to at least look for work...
 
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