As much as I abhor sugarpop couples I say yes they should be able to adopt. There are SOOOOOO many children, especially black children, in the foster care system that it's ridiculous. My son was in the system years ago and the family that had him was using social services as a cash cow. The case worker responsible for handling his case (which was in another state) told us that at one time he was put in a spanish speaking home with 6 other children and all of them were kept locked away in a room like animals. These people were collecting checks for all 7 of them and not giving them the love, nourishment and all the other things children need. When we adopted him he was considered developmentally delayed and weighed only 31 lbs at 3 1/2 years old. He was very thin and slow at almost everything he did. He also had some minor behavior problems.
When we brought him back to Louisiana my immediate family and my wife's immediate family welcomed him with loving arms. They hugged and kissed him all day long. He was so happy and quickly blended in with his new family. He finally had parents, grandparents, aunts, uncles, godparents, cousins, friends and a little brother on the way.
On Monday he will be 7 yrs old. He weighs 65 lbs and we can't seem to keep him away from the dinner table. He is a 1st grade student at a private school, reads on a 3rd grade level and makes all A's except in Math (he's a b/c student in math so far). Last night, he got his first hit in little league baseball and told me he's gonna play baseball for Grambling (all i could do is shake my head).:lol:
I won't go on and on about him but I really love my son and hate to think about where he might be if my wife and I had not decided to adopt. One might say well, someone else would have adopted him but the truth of the matter is that most people want to adopt babies and the older a child gets the less likely it is that he/she will be adopted. Because of this my wife and I decided to adopt an older child.
If we hadn't he might still be in the system, not receiving real love, not having his own family and would probably never don a Grambling State University baseball uniform.
The bottom line in all of this, though, is whether or not a child is better off in a loving home with two sugarpops or being in a system that doesn't guarantee stability. I say he should be in a home where he's gonna receive love and stability. Not ideal but it's better than the foster system.
