Seeing Your Ex in Public with Your New Significant Other


jsupop33 said:
CT, I didn't know you liked short men. Figured you was into the 6'2 or better brothers.
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equal opportunity...it ain't the looks that keep me...You got to have that "it" factor that piques my curiosity...from 5'4 to 7 feet...no limitations...well, not midgets...I don't see that working for me...but who knows...he may be impressive as shit then Imma have to see what he working with. LOL
 
chocalate_topaz said:
equal opportunity...it ain't the looks that keep me...You got to have that "it" factor that piques my curiosity...from 5'4 to 7 feet...no limitations...well, not midgets...I don't see that working for me...but who knows...he may be impressive as shit then Imma have to see what he working with. LOL
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You are almost as bad as Cee....LOL
 



chocalate_topaz said:
equal opportunity...it ain't the looks that keep me...You got to have that "it" factor that piques my curiosity...from 5'4 to 7 feet...no limitations...well, not midgets...I don't see that working for me...but who knows...he may be impressive as shit then Imma have to see what he working with. LOL
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OK CT...
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Social media has provided a handful of women that I used to holla at (or wanted to holla at) the courage to apologize for how they did me. One keeps apologizing and you can tell she still wants to holla but at this point I'm still at the mindset of "Hey I don't have kids so I don't have time to be worrying about being step daddy to 3-4 kids who might not like me" so I pass like Lebron lol. Plus I'm a forgiving person but I don't forget. I don't walk in your house and you sitting in the lap of another dude and laughed at me. That same dude pretty much had her prostituting in the area and she blew up like the Michelin man lol. She dropped the weight (look good with it) and is a nurse but I don't do sloppy 4ths lol. Don't get bowed up with 3-4 kids and THEN have an epiphany lol

As my frat told me, I might have to change that mindset. Once you get into that 35-40 range you probably will have to deal with women with kids so you either have to deal with teens who will be out soon or grown women in their 40s with grown kids out of the house lol.
 
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chocalate_topaz said:
equal opportunity...it ain't the looks that keep me...You got to have that "it" factor that piques my curiosity...from 5'4 to 7 feet...no limitations...well, not midgets...I don't see that working for me...but who knows...he may be impressive as shit then Imma have to see what he working with. LOL
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ain't nothing wrong with midgets...they don't have to get on their knees to give head.
 
In_The_662 said:
Social media has provided a handful of women that I used to holla at (or wanted to holla at) the courage to apologize for how they did me. One keeps apologizing and you can tell she still wants to holla but at this point I'm still at the mindset of "Hey I don't have kids so I don't have time to be worrying about being step daddy to 3-4 kids who might not like me" so I pass like Lebron lol. Plus I'm a forgiving person but I don't forget. I don't walk in your house and you sitting in the lap of another dude and laughed at me. That same dude pretty much had her prostituting in the area and she blew up like the Michelin man lol. She dropped the weight (look good with it) and is a nurse but I don't do sloppy 4ths lol. Don't get bowed up with 3-4 kids and THEN have an epiphany lol

As my frat told me, I might have to change that mindset. Once you get into that 35-40 range you probably will have to deal with women with kids so you either have to deal with teens who will be out soon or grown women in their 40s with grown kids out of the house lol.
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Honestly, depends on location. In the south yea but most major cities got a lot of sisters 35 plus single without kids but a lot of times it is a reason why no one has wifed them up
 
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jsupop33 said:
Honestly, depends on location. In the south yea but most major cities got a lot of sisters 35 plus single without kids but a lot of times it is a reason why no one has wifed them up
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*thinking about 5 I personally know in the DMV right now. :D lol Good for a screw but not for a wife. Pretty/fine females though...
 
jsupop33 said:
Honestly, depends on location. In the south yea but most major cities got a lot of sisters 35 plus single without kids but a lot of times it is a reason why no one has wifed them up
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at only 29% of blacks married...y'all ain't wifing nobody for no reason seems like it.
 
jsupop33 said:
Honestly, depends on location. In the south yea but most major cities got a lot of sisters 35 plus single without kids but a lot of times it is a reason why no one has wifed them up
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The reason is simple....they treat relationships like their careers.
 
Herbert77060 said:
How so? Explain that to those of us (me) who are kind of slow.
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What I mean is these women go in to the work force and put forth a strong effort to show that women are equal to men in the workforce. I fully agree that women are equal in that regard. Yet, they take this same approach in to a relationship not recognizing that a relationship is almost never 50/50 and the search for equality is not relevant. Their constant search for the equal man is also their curse. They take equally yoked literally rather than spiritually and feel that a man with status consequently will lead to happiness.

I have noticed a number of my ex's who are have successful careers but consistently pressured me for marriage are still single.

In short they cannot leave their career at the front door upon entering the house.
 



The European educational system has taught black educated women to think like white males. So when they get with black men they bring that same mentality into relationships. This is a major problem. No one will.admit the truth but this is one of the biggest issues facing black educated America. White women don't challenge white males like black women challenge black males. White churches don't teach white women over white males like black churches blame the black male for all faults. Black preachers gotta wake up and realize black men are losing interest in church because you do it to us. We are tired of your one way messages. Until black preacher's get this message and stop bashing black men you will only have and always have 70% females and kids as your congregation.
 
A LOT of Y'all dudes full of shit. You want everything to be one sided. You want women to pull her weight, aka be part provider for the family, but then you want to drop back to biblical stuff where you get to be king of the house and run everything. Uh uh...not buying the challenge bullshit; black men aren't that soft. What many of you want is a perfect slave. You want women to be quiet, allow you to do whatever you want, with no fuss, backtalk, disagreements and she takes her ass to work but you get final say so. Wake the phuck up. It's 2017...the stats say you aren't marrying ANYONE....and that's probably what folks will work with--the family unit will be "prime life" versus the situationships, really but not really, going on now. Women aren't going back to a life they don't know anything about and have never lived. You wishing on a falling star...
 
CEE DOG said:
The European educational system has taught black educated women to think like white males. So when they get with black men they bring that same mentality into relationships. This is a major problem. No one will.admit the truth but this is one of the biggest issues facing black educated America. White women don't challenge white males like black women challenge black males. White churches don't teach white women over white males like black churches blame the black male for all faults. Black preachers gotta wake up and realize black men are losing interest in church because you do it to us. We are tired of your one way messages. Until black preacher's get this message and stop bashing black men you will only have and always have 70% females and kids as your congregation.
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Cee, you may have a point. I will cite two examples. One happened several years ago and one happened about month ago.

A friend of mine's wife got into an automobile accident with this white woman. It was fairly minor but the white woman would not make a decision without calling her husband. Her husband arrived on the scene and my friend's wife decided she would handle it herself. Well, she was out numbered two to one and of she ended up getting the short end of the stick. After the deed was done and she realized she had been taken advantage of she then wants to call my friend/her husband. Too late now.

I was doing some work at a customer who owns a small motel in a small town. He was having internet connectivity issues and his clientele are dubious to say the least. Anyway, I ask this white chick if the room she and this guy was in was having internet problems...she would not answer. Instead she got the attention of the guy she was with (he did not hear me ask the question) and deferred to him to say yea or nay. I just laughed because it was either a yes or no answer but she would not answer the question. These are dope dealing meth heads who are residents at the motel and she would not answer me.
 
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Hell, everybody got a story...here are a few of mine of allowing men to "lead" me...

Moved back to MS from VA. Had a trailer my parents gifted me with to go to med school. Well, my brother in law/sis in law were living in it the 8 years we were gone. Time to move back, 6 months out, I'm asking hubby to let his brother know we will be moving trailer. Time moves on and nothing is happening. So, when it was time to go...NOTHING had happened. So, we are living with my parents...for FOUR LONG ASS MONTHS..until I found out NOBODY was in the house cause they had split. I then called my broker, got the money and moved the trailer down to my spot in 2 weeks.

SAme husband...time to sell trailer. GF of dude and I had corresponded and I told her $7500 firm since it had all appliances. She says, then say $8500 and he will be ready at the $7500. Cool. Told hubby what the plan was. When time came, he looked at dude and said, well, Imma give you a good deal...$5500. My head swiveled on my neck and I stared. Did he say $2000 LESS than we all knew we wanted?

Listening to my mama and her "good wife" advice....and the list goes on and on and on....

Every man can't lead. Work with your STRENGTHS.... That's why black women like PARTNERSHIPS.
 
chocalate_topaz said:
Hell, everybody got a story...here are a few of mine of allowing men to "lead" me...

Moved back to MS from VA. Had a trailer my parents gifted me with to go to med school. Well, my brother in law/sis in law were living in it the 8 years we were gone. Time to move back, 6 months out, I'm asking hubby to let his brother know we will be moving trailer. Time moves on and nothing is happening. So, when it was time to go...NOTHING had happened. So, we are living with my parents...for FOUR LONG ASS MONTHS..until I found out NOBODY was in the house cause they had split. I then called my broker, got the money and moved the trailer down to my spot in 2 weeks.

SAme husband...time to sell trailer. GF of dude and I had corresponded and I told her $7500 firm since it had all appliances. She says, then say $8500 and he will be ready at the $7500. Cool. Told hubby what the plan was. When time came, he looked at dude and said, well, Imma give you a good deal...$5500. My head swiveled on my neck and I stared. Did he say $2000 LESS than we all knew we wanted?

Listening to my mama and her "good wife" advice....and the list goes on and on and on....

Every man can't lead. Work with your STRENGTHS.... That's why black women like PARTNERSHIPS.
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CT, did you know your husband didn't have leadership qualities before you married him? Meaning where there red flags that he was not on point in that regard?
 
JR said:
CT, did you know your husband didn't have leadership qualities before you married him? Meaning where there red flags that he was not on point in that regard?
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Nope, I didn't. 22 in love and we met and married in less than a year...but I had my mama with her tips...MOST of which did NOT work for us...but it is what it is....
 
chocalate_topaz said:
Hell, everybody got a story...here are a few of mine of allowing men to "lead" me...

Moved back to MS from VA. Had a trailer my parents gifted me with to go to med school. Well, my brother in law/sis in law were living in it the 8 years we were gone. Time to move back, 6 months out, I'm asking hubby to let his brother know we will be moving trailer. Time moves on and nothing is happening. So, when it was time to go...NOTHING had happened. So, we are living with my parents...for FOUR LONG ASS MONTHS..until I found out NOBODY was in the house cause they had split. I then called my broker, got the money and moved the trailer down to my spot in 2 weeks.

SAme husband...time to sell trailer. GF of dude and I had corresponded and I told her $7500 firm since it had all appliances. She says, then say $8500 and he will be ready at the $7500. Cool. Told hubby what the plan was. When time came, he looked at dude and said, well, Imma give you a good deal...$5500. My head swiveled on my neck and I stared. Did he say $2000 LESS than we all knew we wanted?

Listening to my mama and her "good wife" advice....and the list goes on and on and on....

Every man can't lead. Work with your STRENGTHS.... That's why black women like PARTNERSHIPS.
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CT not offense but it seems you just married a sorry ass motherfucker. I hope I'm not sounding disrespectful in any way and if I am my most respectable apologies.

My wife moved here and she had a stove and refrigerator for sell. I asked her what price did she want to sell it for since it was hers. She told me. I made it happen. Period. I just truly believe you married the wrong guy. Also CT my wife and I both discussed life issues and noted that we did not want a partnership but a marriage based not only on spirituality but common sense. We both openly noted what our weaknesses were and shared them. Meaning we let go of our insecurities early on.

I'm not judging you my sister but that ninja is sorry as hell.

JR said:
CT, did you know your husband didn't have leadership qualities before you married him? Meaning where there red flags that he was not on point in that regard?
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I agree JR....if I had a brother as sorry as that dude I would tell women not to even look at his sorry behind.
 
The Founder said:
CT not offense but it seems you just married a sorry ass motherfucker. I hope I'm not sounding disrespectful in any way and if I am my most respectable apologies.

My wife moved here and she had a stove and refrigerator for sell. I asked her what price did she want to sell it for since it was hers. She told me. I made it happen. Period. I just truly believe you married the wrong guy. Also CT my wife and I both discussed life issues and noted that we did not want a partnership but a marriage based not only on spirituality but common sense. We both openly noted what our weaknesses were and shared them. Meaning we let go of our insecurities early on.

I'm not judging you my sister but that ninja is sorry as hell.



I agree JR....if I had a brother as sorry as that dude I would tell women not to even look at his sorry behind.
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Nope, he wasn't a sorry ass motherfucker....he worked hard but he had no real father figure to show him some things. He wasn't a leader but because he was big, they wanted him to be and he tried to "play that role"....that whole fake til you make it/I don't know what i'm doing but I ain't gonna ask nobody and look weak bullshit...instead of saying what he didn't get and being okay with me putting my strengths into play--logistics, money, deals...how much we could have overcome if he had been able/allowed to articulate that stuff without feeling emasculated...that shit was/still is promoted by all generations....instead we all suffer...

Founder, my statement of partnership is based on mutual respect allowing each of our strengths to be maximized for the good of US...it ain't a roommate, split the bills down the middle...

I've mentioned this before...a psychologists came to ASU and gave us a talk about how races view relationships:
Caucasian- God complex--he wants to be king, them subjects AND he is willing to pay the price to get it his way--foot all the bills as long as they are at his beck and call...he wants to own and control it ALL.

Africans- Partnerships--they work well when they work together...each reaffirming what they bring to the table. They SHARE

Asian- Collectives- tend to be made up of people who work together. They tend to each other's needs without the focus being only on THEM...That group becomes close knit, life long friends--kids are friends and rarely do outsiders get invited inside. It is thought that if there are 2 widows...they tend to marry each other...
 
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