Bartram
Brand HBCUbian
I have been in the workforce/real world for over a decade now and one constant I have seen in my line of work (maybe that's an overriding factor) is the difference between white and black married couples. Almost without exception, every white guy that I have worked with, their wife does not work or either was working and stopped to have a baby, subsequently stay home and raise the kids,,, etc. Usually the white guy is an engineer/high paid professional type and the wife may or may not be the same,, mostly not,,, usually was a nurse/teacher/secretary. Conversely, most every black couple that I know, both spouses work and that is the overriding emphasis in the relationship,,, WE BOTH WILL/GOTTA/WANT-TO WORK. All my married friends from college are married to spouses "on their level".
I find this totally amazing in that, number one, how in the world do the white couples manage????? That's really kind of a rhetorical question because from what I see, I understand how they manage. They are like a "closed family" i.e., they don't do much. They live very modestly. On the other hand, many black couples are pretty much like the new age, college educated version of The Jeffersons having to start off with "the best", "the biggest", "the most", "the most glamorous",,, etc, on & on.
Why is this? Is it because we as a race are still pretty much a generation of "firsts" to have "made it"???? Classic conspicuous consumption in effect, thus we (both of "us") have to work to support our lifestyles, or is it more the psychological aspect of the "independent spouse" which has been drilled into our heads(especially sistas),, etc? Comments?
I find this totally amazing in that, number one, how in the world do the white couples manage????? That's really kind of a rhetorical question because from what I see, I understand how they manage. They are like a "closed family" i.e., they don't do much. They live very modestly. On the other hand, many black couples are pretty much like the new age, college educated version of The Jeffersons having to start off with "the best", "the biggest", "the most", "the most glamorous",,, etc, on & on.
Why is this? Is it because we as a race are still pretty much a generation of "firsts" to have "made it"???? Classic conspicuous consumption in effect, thus we (both of "us") have to work to support our lifestyles, or is it more the psychological aspect of the "independent spouse" which has been drilled into our heads(especially sistas),, etc? Comments?