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buckwheat

buckwheat

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Today, I found out that close friends of mine are getting divorced. About four months ago they had a second daughter. I think their problems came about when the husbands family was in all of their business. I really don't want them to get a divorce, but it seems like their intent on geting divorced. Has anyone been in situation before and if so what did you tell the couple?
 
"Don't make a permanent decision based on a temporary situation/circumstance." First off, both parties have to want their marriage and be willing to do what it takes to make it work. Secondly, both parties have to realize they are married to EACH OTHER and their family should NOT be ALL in the business with advice. They have to agree on these points before they can even think about reconciliation.

Now, as their friend, you can pray for them and ask God what your role should be TO them. Whatever He leads you to do, obey!
 



Thanks Fort! They really need help because they are just tired off all of the issues they're having.
 
JROCK said:
Have they tried counseling?
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Note yet! The bad thing about the situation is that the husband is a minister. You would think that he would really try to find ways to make the marriage work. His wife is a christian and believes in following God's rule on Marriage.
 
buckwheat1911 said:
Note yet! The bad thing about the situation is that the husband is a minister. You would think that he would really try to find ways to make the marriage work. His wife is a christian and believes in following God's rule on Marriage.
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Being a Minister does not mean anything....and many times people's interpretations of God's rule on Marriage is totally and absolutely incorrect!!!!

Having gone through cousenling with my ex made us understand each other's problems and learn how to cope...but many times it's just not meant to be because if you are not living for yourself FIRST then how can you cohabitat with another.

The next thing is, as a man it is up to you to keep your family and her family out of you and and your wife's business. Rule number 1: Who are you marrying? I'm sorry but people may say you marry the entire family...that is BULLLLLLLLLLLLLL junk. Misery loves company on many level.

What I would tell you to do as a friend is to ask them to seek therapy. Email me and I will provide you the name of the therapist...she work in Bethesda and believe me, she has helped with some HARD issues.
 
Do what Fort said. Pray for them and let God work.

Sometimes, people are not meant to be together but the stay together for the sake of _______ (you name it). Even if they should part, IF IT IS GOD's will for them to be together, nothing will keep them apart.


Sometimes people should part for a time.....and get a clear head.
 
I'm a firm believer in NOT telling folks what to do, when it comes to their marriage. You can offer advice, only if asked...even then, proceed w/extreme caution. Let them make their own decision(s). No one knows your situation better than you. Nothing you or anyone can say to make them change their mind, if it's already made up. Sometimes I truly believe divorce IS the best thing for some people and their situation(s)...it wasn't invented/created for nothing...that's for sure. :rolleyes:

Pray for them and leave it ALONE!
 
Warndalyn said:
I'm a firm believer in NOT telling folks what to do, when it comes to their marriage. You can offer advice, only if asked...even then, proceed w/extreme caution.
Pray for them and leave it ALONE!
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Thanks for the advice everyone. My wife and I sought out a counselor and we are in the process of trying to get them to go and see the counselor.
 
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