Olde Hornet
Well-Known Member
1. 'You're being crazy.'
Gaslighters will try to manipulate you into questioning your sanity. Making direct comments that undermine your perspective or rationality is a common tactic.How to respond:
- "Please don't question my ability to think clearly."
- "Even if we don't agree, this is what the reality looks like to me."
2. 'You're overreacting.'
By accusing you of being dramatic, the gaslighter is attempting to dismiss your concerns as irrational and unfounded.How to respond:
- "Whether or not you agree with me, this is how I feel right now."
- "I would appreciate it if you didn't judge my feelings. They are mine and not up for debate."
3. 'I was just joking!'
Gaslighters often downplay their mean-spirited comments or criticism. This can cause you to wonder if you're being overly sensitive, even when you're not.How to respond:
- "That comment might have been funny to you, but it hurt my feelings."
- "It didn't seem to me like you were joking, and I'd appreciate it if you didn't talk to me that way."