BILBREW said:
Here's a quick update:
... He then went on to say, "Well, when you joined the church you agreed to submit to God and to submit to the Pastor. I want you to pray about it and then about your decision".
Correct me if I am wrong, but I do not recall reading or hearing anything about submitting to a man, Pastor or not...
To me, it reads like you joined the church and part of the church's dialogue in receiving members is the commitment in bold above. Most churches have a script that is quoted in no uncertain terms when receiving members. My guess is that it was given to you and you missed the clause. So, if you are going to continue looking, please tender your resignation in writing so all the records can be cleaned-up.
As a pastor I watch for the souls of those who join our church. We have a shepherd-sheep relationship. To cut to the chase, one cannot pastor people who are not submitted. That does not mean that the people don't have a brain, a conscience, or are not led by God. It does not mean that people should go around and blindly do what the pastor tells them because the pastor can be wrong sometimes, too. What is does mean is that there needs to be a genuine trust that the pastor is being led by God and his methods and/or practices do not contradict the scriptures. So, if you are not going to be submitted to a pastor, then you will lose some of the benefit of the Christian walk.
In receiving
applications for membership at our church, the new prospect has a personal interview with me and takes part in an introductory course that lets them know who we are and what we are about - including the shepherd-sheep relationship. At the completion we find out if the prospect is still interested in becoming a member. If so, they are presented before the church and the church then makes a commit to them as well.
I do recommend that you identify and ministry and pastor that you can be submitted to and then submit yourself.
Jer 3:14-15
14 Turn, O backsliding children, saith the LORD; for I am married unto you: and I will take you one of a city, and two of a family, and I will bring you to Zion: 15 And I will give you
pastors according to mine heart, which shall feed you with knowledge and understanding.
Jer 23:1-2
Woe be unto the pastors that destroy and scatter the sheep of my pasture! saith the LORD. 2 Therefore thus saith the LORD God of Israel against the pastors that feed my people; Ye have scattered my flock, and driven them away, and have not visited them: behold, I will visit upon you the evil of your doings, saith the LORD
Heb 13:17
17
Obey them that have the rule over you, and submit yourselves: for they watch for your souls, as they that must give account, that they may do it with joy, and not with grief: for that is unprofitable for you.
Eph 4:11-16
11 And he gave some, apostles; and some, prophets; and some, evangelists; and some,
pastors and teachers; 12
For the perfecting of the saints, for the work of the ministry, for the edifying of the body of Christ: 13 Till we all come in the unity of the faith, and of the knowledge of the Son of God, unto a perfect man, unto the measure of the stature of the fulness of Christ: 14 That we henceforth be no more children, tossed to and fro, and carried about with every wind of doctrine, by the sleight of men, and cunning craftiness, whereby they lie in wait to deceive; 15 But speaking the truth in love, may grow up into him in all things, which is the head, even Christ: 16 From whom the whole body fitly joined together and compacted by that which every joint supplieth, according to the effectual working in the measure of every part, maketh increase of the body unto the edifying of itself in love.
KJV