Have any of you ended a friendship over how they treated their partner?


chocalate_topaz

chocalate_topaz

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I can't say I've known of an abusive situation where I was close friends as an adult. I'd be done with them...after I've had my say. One thing I do notice...is men tend to distance themselves but the friend doesn't usually know why. Would you tell the person the "why" if you are done with them?
 
chocalate_topaz said:
I can't say I've known of an abusive situation where I was close friends as an adult. I'd be done with them...after I've had my say. One thing I do notice...is men tend to distance themselves but the friend doesn't usually know why. Would you tell the person the "why" if you are done with them?
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I haven't been in a situation where a friend was being abused by his/her spouse but a relative was.

My cousin was physically abusing his wife; I was unaware of it until he was in the hospital. Her ass burned him with some grits.
 



Didn't end but I distanced myself from a cat who was wilding because my wife saw it (he was that sloppy) and hanging with him became an argument waiting to happen. Breaking point was when the crew had a family picnic and all our significant others are ther and he shows up with a sidechick.

OAN: I couldn't be friends with some dude who beat his wife.
 
jsupop33 said:
Didn't end but I distanced myself from a cat who was wilding because my wife saw it (he was that sloppy) and hanging with him became an argument waiting to happen. Breaking point was when the crew had a family picnic and all our significant others are ther and he shows up with a sidechick.

OAN: I couldn't be friends with some dude who beat his wife.
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Bruh I told all my friends don't ever bring their side piece (if they have one) around my wife. If we out to dinner act like you don't even see us.
 
@chocalate_topaz Funny you mention this. My wife swears I am bourgeois because I don't deal with people I feel haven't matured. I tell her all the time, we in our mid 30's now. We got to focus on wealth building and making sure the next generation straight. When I see cats out here sloppy, or doing dumb isht, I just don't think that is a good look.
 
The Founder said:
Bruh I told all my friends don't ever bring their side piece (if they have one) around my wife. If we out to dinner act like you don't even see us.
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Back in the day before I settled down, my roommate and I had a rule. Neither one of us could bring over another chick while one of our ole ladies were there. It was the code of the crib and were both 25-26 back then.

Buddy from the picnic fucked up my ride home... As soon as we got in the car..

Wife: Who was the girl that ***** was with? His family or something
Me: (knowing this is a set up question). No, that his homegirl
Wife: Oh Okay, so you met her before
Me: A few times (remembering the chick knew my name). She came out to happy hour
Wife: So women are invited to happy hour
Me: **Wishing I could magically be home**
 
jsupop33 said:
Back in the day before I settled down, my roommate and I had a rule. Neither one of us could bring over another chick while one of our ole ladies were there. It was the code of the crib and were both 25-26 back then.

Buddy from the picnic fucked up my ride home... As soon as we got in the car..

Wife: Who was the girl that ***** was with? His family or something
Me: (knowing this is a set up question). No, that his homegirl
Wife: Oh Okay, so you met her before
Me: A few times (remembering the chick knew my name). She came out to happy hour
Wife: So women are invited to happy hour
Me: **Wishing I could magically be home**
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See let me help you out...married brother to married brother how I would respond to my wife.

Wife: Who was the girl that ***** was with? His family or something
Me: I don't know that bitch...hell I don't know what the fuck wrong with that ni$$a

Then I would be quiet the entire trip home and let her fuss about him. LOL...I have noted the woman in a non-respectful manner and him as well. Ain't nothing else to be said. LOL.... I learned quick when my woman get to asking about certain to end it quick and fast with a comment that is agreeable to hers.

My boys know I will throw you under the bus in order to have peace with my wife.
 
I don't hang with men who hit women. They're cowards. Now if a grown man or woman is cheating on their spouses it's not my problem. In my house hold we don't concern ourselves with other people houses. When you are concerned and concentrating on others it show's a weakness in you and yours. Besides I've learned over the years some folks have open relationships. If they're happy with it why should I care?
 
chocalate_topaz said:
Damn Founder....lol...
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for real....cats be trying to keep it real in front of their boys then be at home begging for some puddin. Not me....if I believe my wife thinking that something is fucked up....I'm going to say it before her. Cats better learn to keep their wife happy. Hell I like black eyes peas, corn, and baked chicken and corn bread my wife cooks. Hell keep the wife happy at all cost!!!!!

Wife get mad ain't shit right in the house...air condition be fucked up, ain't no hot water, all the TVs on lifetime, dog and the cat fighting....LOL...and hell I don't even have no dog. LMAO!!!!
 
Dude passed a few months ago but we use to go fishing together and when my son was small he wanted me to bring my son over so his boy would have some male companionship around his age. I was going to do it until the way he treated his wife reared its ugly head. I never took my boy back over to his place and I just started distancing myself from him. Oh yeah, he was a preacher too.
 
The Founder said:
See let me help you out...married brother to married brother how I would respond to my wife.

Wife: Who was the girl that ***** was with? His family or something
Me: I don't know that bitch...hell I don't know what the fuck wrong with that ni$$a

Then I would be quiet the entire trip home and let her fuss about him. LOL...I have noted the woman in a non-respectful manner and him as well. Ain't nothing else to be said. LOL.... I learned quick when my woman get to asking about certain to end it quick and fast with a comment that is agreeable to hers.

My boys know I will throw you under the bus in order to have peace with my wife.
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Man..i couldn't claim I didn't know her. She was talking about a story we was all present for.
 
Herbert77060 said:
You know I was SMH...............LOL

(side note: no wonder I can't get that tailgate catfish he promised me. I ain't gon' tell no secrets....<wink>)
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Man my wife is cool...she's an introvert and likes privacy but will talk your fucking head off!!!!

jsupop33 said:
Man..i couldn't claim I didn't know her. She was talking about a story we was all present for.
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My response would have been, "I could never stand that bitch she always got some shit going on. I don't go around her...she ain't no good." LOL.....

JROCK said:
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@The Founder
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For real bruh.....cats got that bad trying to be hard. Every time you see them they got some fast food in their hand or always out and about. Them cats wife ain't happy so they make it worse by leaving and saying fuck it. Cat can't get a divorce cause they got kids and the child support will eat him up plus they own a home so he screwed. Instead of just being agreeable they keep their wife upset. no sir....my wife don't like some shit...I don't like it. when my wife try on something and ask how it looks I say I like it...here's an example:

Wife: Baby how you like this outfit.
Me: I love it
Wife: I don't like it..it makes me look fat.
Me: Baby you not fat they just made some fucked up material. I bet it's cheap.
Wife: Yea you right what about this one I like it.
Me: I like that also it's made out of better material.
Wife: Ok baby I'm getting it.

See....that happened this weekend.

My wife for some odd reason likes to sleep with a fan on. Yes a fucking fan. Like the old folks have on the porch. I hate that shit. Does she know it....hell no...my ass went and bought some sleep aid and that fan does not bother me. She happy and ain't mad.

I told our son, "look clean up the house first thing in the morning and you know what time you mom will get home...when you hear her car just go in the kitchen and get a clorox wipe and start wiping the counters or something." That little negro got it down packed, wife comes home sees a neat house and he working she sit down and relax.

Happy wife happy home. Cats goin learn. Best thing in the world is TIVO. I'm watching TV..my wife say something I pause the TV. At that moment I don't care if she is saying there are six monkeys farting cotton balls on a pigeon. I'm going to pay full attention. Happy wife happy home. My wife is a nurse and on her feet all day. I iron her scrubs for her. All she has to do is hand them up and put the ones she wants to wear in front. Hell I done got smart she has tennis shoes for every color of scrubs hell I put them out by the scrubs. Next thing I know she making black eyed peas, jiffy corn bread with honey, baked chicken, and some of them cut red potatoes and done fixed my plate. Happy wife happy home.
 



The Founder said:
Man my wife is cool...she's an introvert and likes privacy but will talk your fucking head off!!!!



My response would have been, "I could never stand that bitch she always got some shit going on. I don't go around her...she ain't no good." LOL.....



For real bruh.....cats got that bad trying to be hard. Every time you see them they got some fast food in their hand or always out and about. Them cats wife ain't happy so they make it worse by leaving and saying fuck it. Cat can't get a divorce cause they got kids and the child support will eat him up plus they own a home so he screwed. Instead of just being agreeable they keep their wife upset. no sir....my wife don't like some shit...I don't like it. when my wife try on something and ask how it looks I say I like it...here's an example:

Wife: Baby how you like this outfit.
Me: I love it
Wife: I don't like it..it makes me look fat.
Me: Baby you not fat they just made some fucked up material. I bet it's cheap.
Wife: Yea you right what about this one I like it.
Me: I like that also it's made out of better material.
Wife: Ok baby I'm getting it.

See....that happened this weekend.

My wife for some odd reason likes to sleep with a fan on. Yes a fucking fan. Like the old folks have on the porch. I hate that shit. Does she know it....hell no...my ass went and bought some sleep aid and that fan does not bother me. She happy and ain't mad.

I told our son, "look clean up the house first thing in the morning and you know what time you mom will get home...when you hear her car just go in the kitchen and get a clorox wipe and start wiping the counters or something." That little negro got it down packed, wife comes home sees a neat house and he working she sit down and relax.

Happy wife happy home. Cats goin learn. Best thing in the world is TIVO. I'm watching TV..my wife say something I pause the TV. At that moment I don't care if she is saying there are six monkeys farting cotton balls on a pigeon. I'm going to pay full attention. Happy wife happy home. My wife is a nurse and on her feet all day. I iron her scrubs for her. All she has to do is hand them up and put the ones she wants to wear in front. Hell I done got smart she has tennis shoes for every color of scrubs hell I put them out by the scrubs. Next thing I know she making black eyed peas, jiffy corn bread with honey, baked chicken, and some of them cut red potatoes and done fixed my plate. Happy wife happy home.
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Will you marry me?
 
The Founder said:
Man my wife is cool...she's an introvert and likes privacy but will talk your fucking head off!!!!



My response would have been, "I could never stand that bitch she always got some shit going on. I don't go around her...she ain't no good." LOL.....



For real bruh.....cats got that bad trying to be hard. Every time you see them they got some fast food in their hand or always out and about. Them cats wife ain't happy so they make it worse by leaving and saying fuck it. Cat can't get a divorce cause they got kids and the child support will eat him up plus they own a home so he screwed. Instead of just being agreeable they keep their wife upset. no sir....my wife don't like some shit...I don't like it. when my wife try on something and ask how it looks I say I like it...here's an example:

Wife: Baby how you like this outfit.
Me: I love it
Wife: I don't like it..it makes me look fat.
Me: Baby you not fat they just made some fucked up material. I bet it's cheap.
Wife: Yea you right what about this one I like it.
Me: I like that also it's made out of better material.
Wife: Ok baby I'm getting it.

See....that happened this weekend.

My wife for some odd reason likes to sleep with a fan on. Yes a fucking fan. Like the old folks have on the porch. I hate that shit. Does she know it....hell no...my ass went and bought some sleep aid and that fan does not bother me. She happy and ain't mad.

I told our son, "look clean up the house first thing in the morning and you know what time you mom will get home...when you hear her car just go in the kitchen and get a clorox wipe and start wiping the counters or something." That little negro got it down packed, wife comes home sees a neat house and he working she sit down and relax.

Happy wife happy home. Cats goin learn. Best thing in the world is TIVO. I'm watching TV..my wife say something I pause the TV. At that moment I don't care if she is saying there are six monkeys farting cotton balls on a pigeon. I'm going to pay full attention. Happy wife happy home. My wife is a nurse and on her feet all day. I iron her scrubs for her. All she has to do is hand them up and put the ones she wants to wear in front. Hell I done got smart she has tennis shoes for every color of scrubs hell I put them out by the scrubs. Next thing I know she making black eyed peas, jiffy corn bread with honey, baked chicken, and some of them cut red potatoes and done fixed my plate. Happy wife happy home.
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Gotdayum!!! You the newest one married...and done cracked the code wide open....Keep mama happy and things go REAL SMOOTHE
 
The Founder said:
See let me help you out...married brother to married brother how I would respond to my wife.

Wife: Who was the girl that ***** was with? His family or something
Me: I don't know that bitch...hell I don't know what the fuck wrong with that ni$$a

Then I would be quiet the entire trip home and let her fuss about him. LOL...I have noted the woman in a non-respectful manner and him as well. Ain't nothing else to be said. LOL.... I learned quick when my woman get to asking about certain to end it quick and fast with a comment that is agreeable to hers.

My boys know I will throw you under the bus in order to have peace with my wife.
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Me too
 
chocalate_topaz said:
I can't say I've known of an abusive situation where I was close friends as an adult. I'd be done with them...after I've had my say. One thing I do notice...is men tend to distance themselves but the friend doesn't usually know why. Would you tell the person the "why" if you are done with them?
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Nope. Never told dudes why I left them to themselves. I cannot deal w/ someone who emotionally, physically, verbally, or spiritually abuses their wife or S/O. That's those who I share dna w/ and those who I do not.
 
My best advice to husbands.....GET OFF FACEBOOK!!!!! Get you a instagram account and that's it. That removes a ton of problems.
 
JROCK said:
@The Founder

Go ahead and make you some money and write the book:

"Happy Wife Happy Life!!!"

By The Founder
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Fuck a book...a damn movie. You got 3 dudes. One of them is always happy about his wife and they always getting along. Well the other two always mad about not getting sex and shit....so dude tells them the "secret" and they try it. One wife feels like it is too good to be true and thinks her husband is cheating and the other wife feels that her husband is too nice.

Unlike most movies where each of the couples are close....not this one...only the dudes will be close and the ladies will have separate friends so the advice will be totally different. Towards the end of the movie the two females find out that they have a mutual friend of the happy female and they figure it out. For the one who felt he was being too nice it will be too late.

@chocalate_topaz
 
Get em Founder LOL
This whole conversation made me think of a song by one of my favorite Christian rappers, Bizzle, called This Aint Love. Basically the song breaks down the difference between fake love and real love in romantic relationships and friendships...his lyrics hit home to this question:

"Love won't always agree with you
We like 'yes men' but real men is what you need with you
Love will keep it a hundred and one
Love will watch his language in front of your son
Uh, sometimes love is what makes the homie fight for you
Sometimes it's only cause fighting is what they like to do
Love ain't helping you cheat on your wife
Love will be like, "Go home, be with your wife."
Not sit up in your living room and listen to you beat on your wife, then come out and play Madden like it never happened
Love will tell you when you wrong, then help fix it
Love forgives, what is this?
Cause this ain't love"

I can't say that I know anyone who has gone through an abusive situation, but I know that I couldn't stay friends with any of my guy friends or respect any of my husband's friends that were beating on their wives/girlfriends.
 
The Founder said:
My best advice to husbands.....GET OFF FACEBOOK!!!!! Get you a instagram account and that's it. That removes a ton of problems.
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Facebook is what you make it man. I got off facebook before I got married because it was causing all type of issues. I ended up getting back on for business reasons and I haven't had one issue.

On the other hand, my IG DM's stay lit with hood chicks shooting their shot. lol
 
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