Wifely Duties (1950).....Is this realistic in 2001?


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The Good Wife: 1950s-style
by Shannon Kish

The following is an excerpt from a 1950s high school Home Economics Textbook. As far as I can tell there is no author; I suspect this is mainly because, at least in this day and age, anonymity would be the only thing keeping this person from being run out of town on a rail by wives and mothers everywhere! After I read it, and finished laughing (some several hours later), I thought a rewrite, an updated 1990s kind of version, was most definitely needed. I offer you both versions here. Enjoy!

How To Be A Good Wife (from the original)

Have dinner ready. Plan ahead, even the night before, to have a delicious meal on time. This is a way of letting him know that you have been thinking about his needs. Most men are hungry when they come home, and the prospect of a good meal is part of the warm welcome needed. (Don't stop now, the fun has just begun!)

Prepare yourself. Take fifteen minutes to rest so that you'll be refreshed when he arrives. Touch up your makeup, put a ribbon in your hair, and be fresh looking. He has just been with a lot of work-weary people. Be a little gay and a little more interesting. His boring day might need a lift.

Clear away the clutter. Make one last trip through the main part of the house before your husband arrives, gathering up school books, toys, paper, etc. Then run a dust cloth over the tables. Your husband will feel he has reached a haven of rest and order, and it will give you a lift too. (Yes, I was gagging too!)

Prepare the children. Take a few minutes to wash the children's hands and faces. If they are small, comb their hair, and if necessary, change their clothes. They are little treasures and he would like to see them playing their part.

Minimize all noise. At the time of his arrival, eliminate all noise of the washer, dryer, dishwasher, or vacuum. Try to encourage the children to be quiet. Greet him with a smile and be glad to see him.

Some don'ts: Don't greet him with problems or complaints. Don't complain if he's late for dinner. Make him comfortable. Have him sit back in a comfortable chair or suggest he lie down in the bedroom. Have a cool or warm drink ready for him. Arrange his pillow and offer to take off his shoes. Speak in a low, soft, soothing, and pleasant voice. Allow him to relax and unwind. (Right about here the convulsions of laughter became uncontrollable.)

Listen to him. You may have a dozen things to tell him, but the moment of his arrival is not the time. Let him talk first. Make the evening his. Never complain if he does not take you out to dinner or to other places of entertainment. Instead try to understand his world of strain and pressures, his need to be home and relax.

The Goal: Try to make your home a place of peace and order where your husband can renew himself in body and spirit.
 
yeah it can be...

if your husband makes enough to cover two incomes and he approves of you staying home, it's possible. It's a plus because you got someone to watch the kid(s) development fulltime
 

I think it can be, but not every woman is in that mindframe. All of women see that as being weak-minded, but I don't feel that way. Women who do that say they enjoy taking care of their husbands. The women in the Bible did just the same thing, so what's the problem.
 
I know firsthand on what the presence of a parent can do for a kid....

for example...

on my street the kids whose mom was at home mathe time stayed out of serious trouble and went to college

the kids that had too much freedom, mom (single parents) that worked to provide for the house, went off on the wrong path cause they had too much freedom..(they were spoiled also)

the two parent working households with children had mixed reviews. Some kids just get lazy cause their spoiled while othst turn out exceptional

you don't have follow the textbook but it's a luxury...
 
Originally posted by BluBlood
The best wifely duties are in proverbs 31

Thanks BluBlood! I was trying to remember that chapter the other night! :D:idea:
 
You forgot a few........ :D:D:D



Be a little more interesting for him. Hs boring day may need a lift and one of your duties is to provide it.

Over the cooler months of the year you should prepare and light a fire for him to unwind by. Your husband will feel he has reached a haven of rest and order, and it will give you a lift too. After all, catering for his comfort will provid you immense personal satisfaction.

Be happy to see him

Greet him with a warm smile and show sincerity in your desire to please him

Let him talk first - remember, his topics of conversation are more important than yours

Your goal: Try to make sure your home is a place of peace, order and tranquillity where your husband can renew himself in body and spirit.

Make him comfortable. Have him lean back in a confortable chair or have him lie down in the bedroon. Have a cool or warm drink ready for him.

Arrange his pillows and offer to take off his shoes. Speak in a low, soothing and pleasant voice.

Don't ask him questions about his actions or question his judgement or integrity. Remember, he is the master of the house and as such will always excercise his will with fairness and truthfulness. You have no right to question him.

A good wife always knows her place :D
 
Every situation is different.

The competition never goes away.

There is always someone larking in the background.

Peace and quiteness can be found in other places.

You never know, just have to work at it day by day.

Althought there are many dos and don'ts, the sooner one learns this, life can become pleasant and they will be happy.

I had a conversation with an older Frat one day and he was telling me about how he and his spouse were slowing drifting apart. Some of the things he told me provided with the knowledge to avoid certain situations. Experience can never be ignored, but assumptions can be ignored. BTW, he said you have to pay attention to the small things that appear not to be important.
 
I don't have a problem with wifely duties; I've already been there & done that, as long as I'm being treated the same or better, it's all good.

What woman you fellas know likes being dogged out by her husband or her man for that matter? If you treat a woman right, yall wouldn't have these problems that you have with women.

This is my .02.
 
i am not married and in college so work with me!!

we had this exact discussion in class last night and from my own personal experiences the first notion is pretty good, but in this day and age, the once house wife is now out baking some bread, so should she still complete those tasks. for example, i did grow up with both working parents, but my mom didn't do any of those things and she was a work-a-holic. the question that was brought up in class was "why are women trained to do those things?" of course it was asked by one of those arses who thinks he knows EVERYTHING! and yes the class was very responsive, but my answer was that those duties will probably not go on in my house since i have never seen a woman in my family do it (my mother has 9 sisters). i was being kinda snapish at him because he is very sexist, but could that be a legit response?
 
It depends on the situation and the persons involved. The important thing for the husband to remember is that the wife is sacrificing a lot by staying at home. He must remember that she needs to be reminded in words and deeds about the value she adds.

It would also be wise for them to seek opportunities to work on community service activities together as a means of spending quality time together. This will also allow her to function outside the family at a pace that she can dictate.
 
The Good Ole Days...

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I will have to withdraw from this thread, because looking back the question was about wifely duties.

I will wait until someone post manly duties before responding again on this subject.
 
Re: MikeBigg

Originally posted by Dtown Jag
I'm really startin' to like you, even though you went to the wrong school.:D

Yeah Baby, but the things I learned would have you shouting...

GSU...I NEVER KNEW!!!!;)
 
Originally posted by MightyDog
I will have to withdraw from this thread, because looking back the question was about wifely duties.

I will wait until someone post manly duties before responding again on this subject.

That's easy...

1. Show Affection
2. Pretend you care
3. Pay dem bills
4. Don't get caught

MOST OF ALL: BRING THE THUNDER!!!!:D
 
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