I hear Black Women say this all the time. This article may shed some light on the topic. Brothers need to stay in school and get an education more now than ever.
http://www.eurweb.com/articles/morenews/02262003/morenews897602262003.cfm
NEWSWEEK: Black Women Are Rising Much Faster Than Black Men
(Feb. 26, 2003) NEW YORK /PRNewswire/ -- Black women are making historic strides on campuses and in the workplace. Once consigned to mostly menial work, black women (24 percent of them, compared to 17 percent of black men) have ascended to the professional-managerial class.
But, as Contributing Editor Ellis Cose writes, their professional progress has widened the gap between them and black men, and they're having to rethink old notions of race, class and romance.
Cose explores the causes and implications of the new black gender gap in the March 3 cover story, "From Schools to Jobs, Black Women are Rising Much Faster than Black Men. What it Means for Work, Family and Race Relations," (on newsstands now).
In a roundtable discussion, National Correspondent Allison Samuels talks to "The View" host Star Jones, ABC News correspondent Deborah Roberts, singer and actress Beyonce Knowles, money manager Mellody Hobson, bank CEO Deborah Wright, rapper Foxy Brown and Teri Woods, a single mother and former paralegal who has started her own publishing business, about their successes and the new rules of race, class and romance. Jones says that black women, as a group, are successful because they have been driven by generations before them. In Jones' case, her mother left her with her grandparents so she could go back to school. Roberts says they can't discount that society is embracing them more. "I think in the corporate culture, bosses are more comfortable with women -- much more than they would be with a black man."
Says money manager Mellody Hobson: "One of the things that's also in our favor is that we stand out. And when you go in prepared and qualified -- you stand out that much more." She adds an anecdote about life in the workplace: "It's hard, because I can go for days and never see another person of color in any senior position. People come into my office all the time where I'm the president of the firm, and they give me their coat and ask me for coffee because they don't know who I am. So I go hang up the coat, get the coffee and then sit at the head of the table."
On finding black men with similar educations and incomes:
* Knowles: It is a little scary, especially for the people younger than me. I look at my sister and then at my future kids' generation and wonder who's going to be there for them to marry. It's so difficult to find someone out there that is compatible when you're a successful black woman.
* Hobson: That's why you have to keep your options open and date whoever you like.
* Brown: I don't think it's that big a deal, because from back in the day, black women have been raising our kids without a man in the household. We're used to being alone.
On being loyal to black men and more black men marrying outside the race than black women do:
* Jones: You could become bitter. I won't tell you who, because I'm going to protect a black man [laughter], but there is a brother who is a popular actor who is marrying outside his race. He was on the show, and so was the woman. I received hundreds of letters about this. Most were African-American women, and the point they made was "Damn, we lost another brother."
* Wright: I do feel sad about it. Our experience as a race is a unique one and a special one, one that I would love to see continue.
* Roberts: I don't think we need to be saddened or bitter. I mean, we were just talking about possibly dating outside the race. I don't think we have the right to be angry at black men who may marry outside the race.
* Wright: But when you step back from it and you look at what's promoted in our society -- I don't think this is a coincidence that all these men are making that decision to marry outside.
* Brown: That's true -- it's the blond hair and the blues eyes that are promoted.
http://www.eurweb.com/articles/morenews/02262003/morenews897602262003.cfm
NEWSWEEK: Black Women Are Rising Much Faster Than Black Men
(Feb. 26, 2003) NEW YORK /PRNewswire/ -- Black women are making historic strides on campuses and in the workplace. Once consigned to mostly menial work, black women (24 percent of them, compared to 17 percent of black men) have ascended to the professional-managerial class.
But, as Contributing Editor Ellis Cose writes, their professional progress has widened the gap between them and black men, and they're having to rethink old notions of race, class and romance.
Cose explores the causes and implications of the new black gender gap in the March 3 cover story, "From Schools to Jobs, Black Women are Rising Much Faster than Black Men. What it Means for Work, Family and Race Relations," (on newsstands now).
In a roundtable discussion, National Correspondent Allison Samuels talks to "The View" host Star Jones, ABC News correspondent Deborah Roberts, singer and actress Beyonce Knowles, money manager Mellody Hobson, bank CEO Deborah Wright, rapper Foxy Brown and Teri Woods, a single mother and former paralegal who has started her own publishing business, about their successes and the new rules of race, class and romance. Jones says that black women, as a group, are successful because they have been driven by generations before them. In Jones' case, her mother left her with her grandparents so she could go back to school. Roberts says they can't discount that society is embracing them more. "I think in the corporate culture, bosses are more comfortable with women -- much more than they would be with a black man."
Says money manager Mellody Hobson: "One of the things that's also in our favor is that we stand out. And when you go in prepared and qualified -- you stand out that much more." She adds an anecdote about life in the workplace: "It's hard, because I can go for days and never see another person of color in any senior position. People come into my office all the time where I'm the president of the firm, and they give me their coat and ask me for coffee because they don't know who I am. So I go hang up the coat, get the coffee and then sit at the head of the table."
On finding black men with similar educations and incomes:
* Knowles: It is a little scary, especially for the people younger than me. I look at my sister and then at my future kids' generation and wonder who's going to be there for them to marry. It's so difficult to find someone out there that is compatible when you're a successful black woman.
* Hobson: That's why you have to keep your options open and date whoever you like.
* Brown: I don't think it's that big a deal, because from back in the day, black women have been raising our kids without a man in the household. We're used to being alone.
On being loyal to black men and more black men marrying outside the race than black women do:
* Jones: You could become bitter. I won't tell you who, because I'm going to protect a black man [laughter], but there is a brother who is a popular actor who is marrying outside his race. He was on the show, and so was the woman. I received hundreds of letters about this. Most were African-American women, and the point they made was "Damn, we lost another brother."
* Wright: I do feel sad about it. Our experience as a race is a unique one and a special one, one that I would love to see continue.
* Roberts: I don't think we need to be saddened or bitter. I mean, we were just talking about possibly dating outside the race. I don't think we have the right to be angry at black men who may marry outside the race.
* Wright: But when you step back from it and you look at what's promoted in our society -- I don't think this is a coincidence that all these men are making that decision to marry outside.
* Brown: That's true -- it's the blond hair and the blues eyes that are promoted.
:nod: :nod2: 
